What’s up World?
I’m back with more on my brain than ever. Hope all my readers have been living life to the fullest and living it. Enough with the small talk, let’s get down to business.
Now last week the state of Georgia executed a man by the name of Troy Davis, as I’m sure you all have heard. Usually I’m all for the death penalty of murderers but I’m not for killing an innocent man just to get justice for a dead cop. It just seems like the system workers ten times harder to find and punish people who hurt one of their own even if it’s not the right man someone has to pay in their eyes. The whole situation has just shown me that the system is messed and as the next generation to lead with have to fix it. I could go into a depth discussion about this tragedy and how we live in a cold world but I’ll save that for another day.
On to a lighter topic, yesterday J. Cole releases his debut album “Cole World: The Sideline Story”. Now I’m not evening going to lie readers, I downloaded the album last week. Only reason I did it was because I didn’t want to buy the album and be let down like I was with Carter 4. Not saying Carter 4 is trash just the worse of the Carter collection. Anyways back to J. Cole, the album isn’t a classic but it definitely has some good songs on the album that people will like and relate to. The biggest let down of the album would probably be the fact that J. Cole produced 12 of the tracks. Now, that’s great from him but he is no Kanye West when it comes to beat making. What is lacking in the beat department J. Cole makes up for with his lyrical content. No one can take away that the boy can rap his ass off, so it helps you look past the just averages beats. Next album Jay-Z needs to get the boy J. Cole some real producers, that’s all I’m saying. All in all I rate the album 7 ½ out of 10 and suggest everyone go support J. Cole and buy the album this week. I know I will be getting a real copy.
The other day someone asked me what were my feelings on marriage and just relationships period. The question had me really thinking and this is what I concluded after my conversation. Marriage is a beautiful thing but in today’s society it’s a joke to me. I say that only because I feel like now a days people just rush into marriage off pure emotion without thinking everything through and those who are married forget about that vow “to death do us part” and get divorced at the first sign of trouble. The same thing can be said about relationships too. It’s like every other week some people break up to make up or break up and find someone new and repeat the process. The way it looks to me, half our generation will never find their soul mates because they are out searching for the wrong ones.
Now sit back and ask yourself “why didn’t my last relationship work?” Majority of you all probably just blamed your ex for the end to the relationship but is it really on them? Now think and ask yourself “Why haven’t any of my relationships worked?” Now is it still all of you ex’s faults? Even I have to blame myself for past relationships. Not because I was the one who messed up the relationship but I was the one who started a relationship with someone who was no good for me. My point is that we often pick those who are no good for us, will do us wrong, or will have one of us catch a charge. Why? I have two reasons that come to mind, we usually go for the same type over and over again. The second reason is because a lot of us just like to have someone around whether they know them well or not.
Now when I say as people we usually keep going for our same type over and over again I don’t mean as far a physical features or anything like that. I’m referring to how we keep looking for a certain type of personality that we like but that usually doesn’t end up working out in our favor. Take me for example, I’m considered to be a sarcastic asshole that has to have the last word. Now I don’t know if I agree with that fully but that’s what I’ve been told so I’ll go with that. Anyways I usually go for someone exactly the same way, does it usually work? No! Not saying it can’t work but I’ve learned is that my sarcasm + someone else’s sarcasm = Arguments all the time. Knowing this what do I do, I still go for it just because it my preference but does the outcome ever change? So far I would have to say ..NO.
Then we have those types of people who just love to be in love. To me that is worse than picking someone that is your type because the only reason they are there is because they can’t be content with being alone. Usually this type of person just finds someone who is good enough for right now. They never think about their future they just want their needs to be satisfied now, instant gratification. Most of the times their relationships never work because they didn’t take the time out to find someone special they just found anyone they could. I’ve never understood why some people feel they need someone else in their life to feel complete instead of knowing their self-worth and having someone add on to that. It may be other deeper issues then that but from the outside looking in those people are just in love with being in love.
Now, I’m not saying these two factors are why your relationships don’t work out because some of you all out there are just plain crazy, but these are just my opinions derived from observation on the world around me. The moral of the story is: if you keep getting the same bad results then you must be doing something wrong. In life you don’t continue using the same method in anything if it doesn’t produce the results you want right? Why not take that and apply it to you relationships?
I just want everyone who reads this to take a closer look at themselves and ask “what am I doing wrong to attract losers and/or what am I doing wrong during the relationship?” After you do that hopefully something will hit you in the head and fix some of the issues you’ve had in prior relationships. Even though I say that I know there will still be some idiot to keep repeating their same mistakes. Don’t be that idiot, live and learn. I’m out!
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